Monthly Archives: April 2012

just some of the stupid things my mother has said


My mother comes up with some real stupidity once in awhile.

One time when she was at the house she opened the refrigerator and said “Why do you buy Heinz?  Don’t you know Hunts is better!!!”  I said “I don’t eat it and Bill don’t give a shit”

Then one time when she’d stayed over night I got up and fed the cats first thing.  They always got canned cat food first thing in the morning.  So she’s already up and sitting on the sofa.  I pop open the can and dump it out and chop it up.  She says “Why do you cut it up?”  Me “’cause cat’s can’t use silverware.”  Her, “Well why do you cut it in little squares?”  Me, “’cause circles are too hard.”  (unsaid, and triangles would just be stupid.)

This one was priceless.  It was at a family reunion and we were sitting at a picnic table in the park.  We were getting ready to get lunch out and she asked me if my car was locked.  I said “The windows are down.”  She says (in a rather snotty tone) “but is it unlocked?”  I repeated, “The windows are down.”  Then she pops off and says “well that doesn’t tell me if it’s unlocked.” got all huffy and went stomping off to the parking lot.  Seriously, how locked can it be with all the damn windows down???

This one wasn’t so much stupid as insensitive and snotty as hell.  We were in Alamosa to take the steam train ride.  We stayed at the big motel with a pool and nobody had brought suits so we were headed to Wal-Mart to buy my hubby and granddaughter suits so they could go swimming.  (I mentioned in my last post that one of the things I wasn’t allowed to do as a kid was go swimming.)  Anyway, we were driving along and she starts in about how she never got to swim because they lived out in the country and only had the canal to swim in blah, blah, fucking whine blah.  I finally had enough and said rather tersely “I didn’t exactly learn to swim either.”  Left unsaid was the part about me growing up IN TOWN, WITH a POOL, that had FREE RED CROSS swimming lessons.  She shut the hell up and didn’t say another word about it.

I’ll tell ya more when I remember them.


wasn’t allowed


So somebody started a topic about all the cool fad toys they had as kids.

I think the only thing I ever had that was considered a fad toy were the trolls.

This is where I rant about my mother.  I was raised by a single mother until I was about 12.  I personally believe if she’s not Asperger’s she’s right next to it.  She has little to no social skills and never saw any value to fitting in.  As far as I know she still doesn’t have any real friends.  She has two sisters and acquaintances but there’s nobody she can point to and say “I’ve been friends with her for X number of years.”  Nobody.

For the most part I wasn’t allowed.  I didn’t get to go roller skating, go to movies, go swimming, talk on the phone with my friends, go to school dances, go to school sports games, or go anywhere with groups of friends.  I never had a Chatty Cathy, Barbies, an Easy Bake Oven, or any of the other cool toys of my generation. Or even the standard toys of childhood like a bicycle.  I also didn’t get to read the normal childhood books.  It had to be literature.  No Dr. Seuss for us!!  And forget stuff like Nancy Drew!  That was just trash as far as she was concerned.  And she wonders why she sucks at Baby Boomers Trivial Pursuit.

What I did get was an abusive step-father.  She chose him over me and sent me to stay with one of my Aunts on a regular basis.  I spent half of my 7th  and 8th grade years at my Aunts.  And he left her anyway.  Oh and she claimed he was a wonderful person and changed just like magic on their honeymoon.  I’ll bet not.  I’ll bet she had her head in the sand as usual and didn’t see what he really was before they got married.

So when I was 15 I found a boyfriend with a car and got pregnant and got married.  That was no walk in the park but at least I was in charge of my own life.  From then on if I could afford it I got it.  If my kids wanted something and I could give it to them I did no matter how “faddish” or silly it seemed at the time.

To say I have a lot of anger towards my mother is kind of an understatement.  And now she’s getting a huge income and is “forgiving” 5k a year of our “loans.”  Who loans their kids money and keeps track of every single cent for their entire lifetime????  What kind of parent comes into a huge income and doesn’t just wipe the slate clean?  When you’re getting over 200K a year and your daughter (my sister) is scraping by on 9 bucks an hour, do you really truly expect her to pay back 80K???  Seriously?

And then there’s all the truly stupid shit she says.  I’ll save that for next time.








sometimes you’re the driver,


My BFF called today and finally got approved for SSD.  Yay!  But she isn’t going to move in with me.  That’s neither a yay nor a boo.  She just has to stay put for at least the next couple of years so she can continue to see the same doctors, etc.  Her hubby is a jackass of the first order but they had a talk and he’s understands that she’s there because she wants to be not because she doesn’t have a choice.  Well, wants is a relative term.  She wants good medical care and insurance and I live far enough away from her medical care it would be very hard on both her and I to travel back and forth once a month or more for her care and since the SSD is “temporary” she has to continue with the same treatments and doctors for the foreseeable future.

Sometimes you’re just the passenger.